snap yo fingers

Skipped my first class today, and it was a double class too! i set my alarm badly and when i realized this i was gonna be like 10-15 minutes late and so, i didn't go. so for everyone not bethany or kelsey, i have a story. I started dating this guy named john here. he's nice and probably the most social person i know. anyway we have been hanging out and all that and things have been moving along and whatnot, but i am not entirely happy, we don't have really anything in common, we don't spend time just us together and he isn't what i want. so, i was talking to bethany and kesey and telling them this yesterday. later kelsey and i were talking and i finally got to the conclusion that i should end it. anyway, i was feeling pretty crappy a while ago about all of this then i found this cool article while i was wasting time and i though since it made me feel a lot better maybe it could be of entertainment or something to everyone. i especially love number five.

In the six weeks or so since my wedding, I’ve had a chance to reflect on how my life has changed as a married woman. There are a few subtle differences (extra ring on my left hand, saying the phrase “my husband,” cooking with fancy pots and pans), but the truth is, life hasn’t changed much. Drew and I lived together almost two years before tying the knot, so other than opening a joint checking account to save our wedding money and deposit cash into once a month for future travels, we haven’t done much differently as husband and wife than we did as boyfriend and girlfriend. But when I think way back to my days before Drew, when I was still very much a single gal, it occurs to me that while there were certainly things I loved about my single life, if I had a chance to live those days over, there are several things I’d do differently the second time around. After the jump, the top five things I’d do if I had a “do-over” on my single life.

1. End bad/boring/unfulfilling relationships as soon as I felt bad/bored/unfulfilled.
Years later, it still boggles my mind when I think of the amount of time I spent in relationships well past their sell-by dates. Fear of loneliness, fear of hurting another’s feelings, naively thinking things would magically get better all kept me with guys who were oh-so-wrong for me. All that time I spent going nowhere with those guys, I could have spent going somewhere with those hotties I always made eyes with on the train. I could have traded in boring Saturday nights in front of the TV for nights out with friends that actually made me laugh and feel good about myself.

2. Date outside my race more.
Odd that as someone who actually prefers darker-skinned men, I dated mostly Caucasian guys when I was single. What’s that all about? I wouldn’t trade my husband for anyone in the world, but it would have been nice to learn more about other cultures and experience different relationship dynamics with guys outside my own race when I had the chance.

3. Cry less.
God, the tears I cried over dumb boys and pointless relationships — what a waste! I barely remember some of their names now, but at the time, the trauma of unrequited like—like, not even love! — was so overwhelming, so all-encompassing, I wasted weeks upon weeks in my twenties crying over boys who would prove to be barely a blip on my radar in retrospect. Every time a guy let me down, I worried I was one step closer to living my life ALONE forever, rather than seeing it as one step closer to the guy who finally WOULDN’T let me down. All that time I could have been riding my bike instead of drying my eyes — it certainly would have been a lot more fun.

4. Travel more.
My coupled friends always took the best vacations and rather than joining them or getting together a travel group of other single people, I told myself, “Some day, when I’m in a good relationship, I’ll take trips like that, too!” And now I DO take great trips (Drew and I have traveled to China and Costa Rica together, on Friday we’re headed to Portugal and Spain for our honeymoon, and we already have exciting travel plans for next year), but why on earth did I think I had to be in a relationship to take a great vacation? Just thinking about all the solo trips — not to mention vacation flings — I missed out on makes me a little sick. I’d definitely take a do-over on this.

5. Always trust my gut.
I used to think my gut was a bully — that it simply didn’t want me to be happy. Why else would it turn on nearly every guy I brought home? Eventually, I stopped listening to it altogether. Oh, what a mistake! Dear gut, I’m sorry! I was wrong, you were right. They were jerks/liars/cheats/morons/Republicans. I’m sorry I ever doubted you and if I had the chance to do it again, I’d listen to your every utterance and take heed
~wonkY coMMa

i've never missed a stranger before... like you.

(267): so then you were screaming "GIVE ME KELVINS!" and heating things up in the microwave and no one knew what you wanted

(902): Take one last look at my face, because I'm drinking it off tonight.

(773): I wonder why dictionaries dont have indexes to help find the words easier.

(812): McDonalds has hash browns for only a quarter!....how many u want?
(1-812): All of them

(773): you turned on the Care Bears movie at 5am and kept screaming "I CARE"

(850): the reason why you were crawling on your hands and knees from room to room last night was because you thought the ceiling fans were chasing you...
(1-850): that makes sense.

I got a job.

Imma be a cashier at Cheeburger Cheeburger in the Reitz Union. Not the best deal in the world, but hopefully it'll pay the bills. ~bj

Oh UF, how many ways do I love thy, Let me count the ways...

1. Free tye-dye in front of Turlington
2. RUB events, like the bands at the Orange and Brew tonight
3. An archery CLUB!!! And, hot guys that also enjoy archery ;)
4. Free printing in the Reitz
5. Free food in many forms
6. Cool bands at homecoming, OAR anyone?
7. Legal vandalism
8. Buses everywhere to anywhere
9. Orange and Blue are flattering colors haha
10. Awesome fraternities like DU and awesome people who are in said fraternities. Like eric who always hurts himself, and gio who is uber tall, and sean who is amazing at math and a good dancer to boot, and jacob who was so drunk he called me both sara and liz, of which i am neither, and bryan who is really cool, and josh who i am a homegirl to, and kyle from NJ, represent! and art, and art 1/2 lol, and dillan who reminds me of josh orendorf, and matt who has the same fight club poster that i have, and kade who is always chill like a polar bear.
wC

i'm a skyper now!

hooray! i talked to ashley d today on skype. that was fun. and christina. i love cucumber-cream cheese sandwiches. i might have a job at cheeburger cheeburger. yum, fast food. anyways, do you guys ever contemplate how awesome our blog title is? i just did. i think it's pretty awesome. :) i got a care package from sarah & bobby (& bella). it was so sweet.

with love,
bj

should be doing homework...

"I might be wrong but I am consistent." - Prof Portugal (espanol teacher). it's awesome, i swear this guy is a male senora. is it just me or do you guys keep finding people that look/act familiar? it's like there's a whole parallel universe every where you go. there are no original people. hmm, deep... sorry, i have philosophy in a couple hours. just tryin to prepare ;) well yeah, i just wanted a new post up here but i'm coming to b-ville the 12th thru the 14th and going to the home hhs game on friday. so... yeah i have to go find out where these stupid ants are coming from so i'll talk to you later friends. hope college is going well for everyone.

love, chris

p.s. i'm going to moe's today!! woo! :D

my new address is

4735 SW 16th Pl #112
Gainesville, FL 32607

in case any of you wanted to know.

love,
bj

I wish everyday could be this awesome!

Today was my first day of classes. Thursday is a light day for me to begin with and it was even better when intro to eng got cancelled because for some reason there was a flood in Olin Hall and so I proceeded to get the free food they were passing out in Ho Plaza and now I am back in my dorm chillin. My next class is at 3 and it is really close to my dorm compared to the others which is bitchen.

CARL

P.S. My Calc TA has a white guy fro and man capris. You would have loved it.

alright: me last, me last

I'm here. home. gainesville. my apartment is pretty sweet. very me. everything went well except a few things. but it's definitely okay. my family just left and i feel weird. i am always feeling weird. kelsey is coming here and that makes me happy. this is college. this is what we've been waiting for our whole lives. ~bj

Love me two times...I'm goin' away!

Well I have already gone away but I have just recently arrived in my dorm. ROTC Orientation was fun, but hard. Memorizing brainwashing chants, only 15 min of hygiene time in yucky dorm and gym bathrooms, surprise fire drills after lights out were pretty intense. We also camped, played ultimate frisbee (AF style), played on a giant teter-totter, played paint ball (pretty much the most fun thing ever), marched A LOT, and ran A LOT. The Just About Music house is pretty much amazing. The walls are all crazy colors in the halls with peace signs and stuff, it has the Live Room (aka Peace Space) with a stage and a studio, and lots of cutie pies. The RA's are super cool and hilarious. The first person I met (and taught me how to navigate the building lol) was the Unit 2 RA who is also majoring in aero & mech engineering, a guitarist, and a total sweetie ;). The RA's also put the tags on the doors with our pretend band names. Mine is the Sardine Energizer HAHA! I'm very happy besides the fact that my schedule is pretty screwed up at the moment. I love you guys I hope all is well.

CARL